During the past few weeks I've been "unfriended" on Facebook by a couple of people. I've been unfriended before and while I was a bit confused why, I could sort of work it out. None of them were people who I had really formed any significant sort of a a bond with so it didn't worry me much at all. Recently I noticed a lack of posts from a bloke and when I went to check, he had unfreiended me. It was a bit of a shock and I was dissapointed, I'd never met him but he was a champion cyclist from about 10 years ago, maybe more. We had shared some comments back and fourth about doing the cog rides. He said he would come up and do one oneday. Maybe he just had a "cull" and I didn't meet the grade. It seems fashionable to cull your friends list and then put a post up saying if you see this you weren't culled.
Another one was a friend from BMX racing. She was at the race with her family when I had a bad accident a few years ago. I'd say we had a good friendly connection and she helped me through some bad times with a handful of very thoughtful comments. She moved interstate with her family and we continued to comment on each others posts. It seemed to me like she was having a rough time with herself. Most "things" seemed to be going well for her on the outside but I think she was battling something within. Her last message to me was a bit worrying. Something about struggling from day to day. Her English was broken and it didn't make a lot of sense. As if she typed it in a hurry, or was not in a normal frame of mind. I think I worked it out though. Of course now I can't see it on Facebook. Similar to the other bloke, I noticed a lack of posts and went to check. Yep, unfriended.. but different. When I searched for her it said no connection, or something like that. It was like Facebook knew she was there but could not connect. Almost as if the account had been cancelled but her name was still in a search index or something. Now her name does not even come up. I sent a message to a mutual friend and they have not got back to me. I don't want to nag but I'd love to hear "oh she's OK just having a break". I really hope she is just having a break from Facebook. Or maybe I have said something that upset her and she blocked me completely; if you can even do that. I don't know. It would suck in a way if she has blocked me but it would be better than what I worry might have happened and fear the worst.
It strengthens my view that a lot of the best people in the world have had the hardest lives and live with the worst demons inside. And the sad part is that if they didn't, they would not be the best people...
